"MISOGYNY: HARD TO SPELL, BUT EASY TO PRACTICE"
Well, it's no secret that we live in a male driven society; one that is often misogynistic towards women. However, when women call attention to it, they are perceived as angry, and justly so.
Why shouldn't I be pissed off that rappers think bitch is a synonym for women or that it takes multitude of half naked women to sell products. Why shouldn't I be mad that as a woman, I will first be judged by my looks and last be judged by my looks; all other qualities become less than secondary and even worse if you're passionate and have conviction, then you're just a bitter bitch. Gotta love the society that tells me to shut up and take it like a man (that's a joke, obviously).
That being said, I'd like to say that this is not about saying all men are evil and all women are innocent. Much like any social issue there are a multiple sides, multiple causes and multiple solutions to the problem. But just like any other social issues, it's difficult to find an solution when people will not have an open dialog that recognizes the main concentration of the problem.
In this circumstance, I am referring to the blatant disrespect of women and the close-minded mouth pieces that seem to want to take the stance on blaming the victim.
For example, I often hear that women killed chivalry with the women's rights movement. How nice, so I either take being beaten, raped and abused by my male partner and not have it seen as a crime in exchange for having you open the car door for me; or ask that I be treated equally as a HUMAN and give up the privilege of you opening the door for me. Yea, that sounds fair.
Let me just say that at the core of the women's rights movement it was a fight for women to have rights and the right to be heard, the right to an equal opportunity in the work force, the right to equal pay, the right to not be ashamed of being abused, the right to say I am a human -being; no better, no worse. I for the life of me cannot figure out why such a concept became royally fucked and turned into "Women fought for the right to be treated like a man so...".
No sir, don't treat me like a man, treat me like an equal. My vagina shouldn't be viewed as a deficit to my intellect nor conversational abilities. How sick are you of hearing, "well women are too emotional"? If that doesn't have a negative connotation, I don't know what does.
First of all, we all have emotions. It may be unfair that men are limited to their expressions of emotions due to societal norms, but don't use my aptitude for conveying or feeling as an insult. Truth is, men's emotions are limited in range, but hey that's not your fault. Secondly, if women weren't "emotional" the human race would die off. Let's face it 70% of women don't orgasm from vaginal penetration, yet we still engage in sex with some folks who really, really, really don't deserve it. You know why? Because we have emotional attachments to that person, we want to please them, we want to make them happy and at the end of the day we have to breed an procreate so, sorry if my emotions are infringing on your pursuit of pussy.
None the less, it's beyond disrespectful how women are still being seen as the "weaker sex". Last I checked the strongest muscle in the human body is the uterus and males don't have one. Also, don't take a difference to mean less than you. Men are women are a lot more alike than we know (I say know because no one's truly researches how men an women are before they engage in the exchange of insults).
Both men and women want love, both want sex, both want to survive, both want to be happy, both want the same, but both are different. It's like apples and oranges, both are fruit, but not the same.
At some point men need to look at women as more than a commodity. I'm a HomoSapien, not a Rolex, nor can I be exchanged for liquid assets. Wait... ok, maybe we can, but that doesn't make it right and I'm hoping you get the point.
At the end of the day this is a male dominated world, but for some reason women are blamed for the wrongs against them.
For example, women are told that mean treat women like shit because women allow it. I wonder when we will call into question the actions of the men? When will it be said that you will be showing more respect to yourself by respecting these women rather than using them for personal gain.
We have to understand this psychologically as well. If you can understand that when placed in a constant stream of troubles, people will learn to accept any degree above that as better. Therefore, if I am constantly abused physically, I will then settle for being abused emotionally. At least then I don't have to explain away the scars.
With that understanding, I believe it will be easier to comprehend that in a sleuth of boys dressed up like men/ Peter Pan complex, one will settle for the one in the best costume or the one not sporting the green tights with a wayward shadow.
Granted, like I mentioned before, not all women are angels or innocent of wrong doing to men, but let's just take it one step at a time. Like I said, we have to take on mending the biggest scars before we go tending to the little scratches attained throughout.
No, men aren't all evil and most men probably aren't away of their misogynistic ways, but can you blame them. If you grow up in a male dominated society, how is it possible for you not to be a product of your environment. The problem here lays in getting them to admit it on a large scale and go forth in fixing it.
We can't sit around all day blaming one another for where the problem started, but it needs to be addressed and solved on some level, because I would hate to have a daughter knowing what she would be subjected to as time goes on.
If the dating pool only becomes worse for each generation, what shall our children look forward to in life.
Remember the family is the first introduction to socialization and if we look at any problem in this world it is answered with community, love and family. So if we can fix the problems before we become a family, don't u think we would last longer?
Why shouldn't I be pissed off that rappers think bitch is a synonym for women or that it takes multitude of half naked women to sell products. Why shouldn't I be mad that as a woman, I will first be judged by my looks and last be judged by my looks; all other qualities become less than secondary and even worse if you're passionate and have conviction, then you're just a bitter bitch. Gotta love the society that tells me to shut up and take it like a man (that's a joke, obviously).
That being said, I'd like to say that this is not about saying all men are evil and all women are innocent. Much like any social issue there are a multiple sides, multiple causes and multiple solutions to the problem. But just like any other social issues, it's difficult to find an solution when people will not have an open dialog that recognizes the main concentration of the problem.
In this circumstance, I am referring to the blatant disrespect of women and the close-minded mouth pieces that seem to want to take the stance on blaming the victim.
For example, I often hear that women killed chivalry with the women's rights movement. How nice, so I either take being beaten, raped and abused by my male partner and not have it seen as a crime in exchange for having you open the car door for me; or ask that I be treated equally as a HUMAN and give up the privilege of you opening the door for me. Yea, that sounds fair.
Let me just say that at the core of the women's rights movement it was a fight for women to have rights and the right to be heard, the right to an equal opportunity in the work force, the right to equal pay, the right to not be ashamed of being abused, the right to say I am a human -being; no better, no worse. I for the life of me cannot figure out why such a concept became royally fucked and turned into "Women fought for the right to be treated like a man so...".
No sir, don't treat me like a man, treat me like an equal. My vagina shouldn't be viewed as a deficit to my intellect nor conversational abilities. How sick are you of hearing, "well women are too emotional"? If that doesn't have a negative connotation, I don't know what does.
First of all, we all have emotions. It may be unfair that men are limited to their expressions of emotions due to societal norms, but don't use my aptitude for conveying or feeling as an insult. Truth is, men's emotions are limited in range, but hey that's not your fault. Secondly, if women weren't "emotional" the human race would die off. Let's face it 70% of women don't orgasm from vaginal penetration, yet we still engage in sex with some folks who really, really, really don't deserve it. You know why? Because we have emotional attachments to that person, we want to please them, we want to make them happy and at the end of the day we have to breed an procreate so, sorry if my emotions are infringing on your pursuit of pussy.
None the less, it's beyond disrespectful how women are still being seen as the "weaker sex". Last I checked the strongest muscle in the human body is the uterus and males don't have one. Also, don't take a difference to mean less than you. Men are women are a lot more alike than we know (I say know because no one's truly researches how men an women are before they engage in the exchange of insults).
Both men and women want love, both want sex, both want to survive, both want to be happy, both want the same, but both are different. It's like apples and oranges, both are fruit, but not the same.
At some point men need to look at women as more than a commodity. I'm a HomoSapien, not a Rolex, nor can I be exchanged for liquid assets. Wait... ok, maybe we can, but that doesn't make it right and I'm hoping you get the point.
At the end of the day this is a male dominated world, but for some reason women are blamed for the wrongs against them.
For example, women are told that mean treat women like shit because women allow it. I wonder when we will call into question the actions of the men? When will it be said that you will be showing more respect to yourself by respecting these women rather than using them for personal gain.
We have to understand this psychologically as well. If you can understand that when placed in a constant stream of troubles, people will learn to accept any degree above that as better. Therefore, if I am constantly abused physically, I will then settle for being abused emotionally. At least then I don't have to explain away the scars.
With that understanding, I believe it will be easier to comprehend that in a sleuth of boys dressed up like men/ Peter Pan complex, one will settle for the one in the best costume or the one not sporting the green tights with a wayward shadow.
Granted, like I mentioned before, not all women are angels or innocent of wrong doing to men, but let's just take it one step at a time. Like I said, we have to take on mending the biggest scars before we go tending to the little scratches attained throughout.
No, men aren't all evil and most men probably aren't away of their misogynistic ways, but can you blame them. If you grow up in a male dominated society, how is it possible for you not to be a product of your environment. The problem here lays in getting them to admit it on a large scale and go forth in fixing it.
We can't sit around all day blaming one another for where the problem started, but it needs to be addressed and solved on some level, because I would hate to have a daughter knowing what she would be subjected to as time goes on.
If the dating pool only becomes worse for each generation, what shall our children look forward to in life.
Remember the family is the first introduction to socialization and if we look at any problem in this world it is answered with community, love and family. So if we can fix the problems before we become a family, don't u think we would last longer?
2 comments:
I love the way you ended this. It is so true that we should all treat this situation as if the participating members are also members of our family - because they indeed are!!! We are all connected, and everything we choose to do affects and effects everyone else in our family. I'm sure no sane person would enjoy having their mothers or sisters exposed this way, so why is it ok for the members of our extended family? Besides, we were talking about this last night and I brought up the point that there is a time and place for everything - if you wanna see T&A go watch some porn! Why should pornograghy be added to music distracting one from its artistry? Booty shaking videos are for those who need the security of knowing that T&A can guarantee ratings and the "love" they are looking for. The problem with that for the artist is that they are left wondering if their audience is watching because of the imagery or the music itself. I guess they'll never know. -_-
Good luck trying to knock someone out with your uterus. Y'all get carried away with this equality shit, and think it's OK to get in man's face like you're gonna do something. Why is it so wrong to hit a woman? Because you ARE the weaker sex. Nothing wrong with that. Get over it and join us. We've been waiting for you.
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